For years, relationships fascinated me. Not because I had them perfectly figured out, but because they are messy, imperfect and beautifully complex.

As a psychologist and somatic sexologist, I’ve learned one crucial thing: good relationships start with being honest with ourselves.

That’s why I created Life as a Relationships Lab, a space to explore relationships as personal experiments. Here, you’ll find no rigid rules, just honest conversations, psychology-backed insights, embodied practices, and room for your unique path.

specialty areas

Your Lab for Growth and Connection

Relationships shape every part of our lives, from intimacy and desire, to work, purpose and our sense of belonging.
In this practice I bring together psychology, somatic sexology, organizational experience and nature based coaching to support individuals and couples across four connected areas of growth.

Explore the area that meets you where you are.

Curious how this work can support you?
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Focused Programs

Deeply structured and transformational journeys

These programs offer clear guidance for clients who want focused work and visible change. Each journey combines psychological insight, embodied practice and tailored exercises designed to support meaningful and lasting transformation.

PROGRAMS

Patient Testimonials

It helped me enormously in terms of regaining my self-confidence and finding my way back to self-love

In the spring of 2024, I was going through a challenging time both professionally and privately. I had the opportunity to book five sessions with Helder. It helped me enormously in terms of regaining my self-confidence and finding my way back to self-love. His work is mindful and combines healing conversations, breathing exercises, and rediscovering the body through somatic experiences. He really does a great & mindful job.

Manuela E.

Helder speaks the language of the body

In a world where we’re constantly in our heads - replaying the past, anticipating the future, and rarely present in the now - reconnecting with my body has become essential. Helder speaks the language of the body. He knows how to create a safe space where you can truly relax, breathe, and just be. After the session, I felt deeply at peace.

Beatrice R.

Helder always made me feel comfortable sharing my doubts

Helder always made me feel comfortable sharing my doubts and feelings in a non judging way. Always seemed to make me see the other side of the coin in an easy way.

Gonçalo S.

With his keen intuition and passion, he creates an atmosphere of trust

Helder treats women with respect and appreciation, which is immediately noticeable. I always felt safe and well cared for, as he is attentive to boundaries and always asks about my well-being. With his keen intuition and passion, he creates an atmosphere of trust.

Monica K.

His online sessions felt like a safe space to breathe

Even through a screen, Helder helped me reconnect with myself in ways I didn’t know I needed. His online sessions felt like a safe space to breathe, feel, and heal. I always logged off feeling grounded, calm, and truly seen.

Luis P.

This experience helped me to better connect with my body and gain more confidence

For me, it was my first tantra massage. From the first talk and throughout the session, I felt being in an environment of trust and felt very safe at any time. That allowed me to truly feel and let go, reaching a deep relaxation. This experience helped me to better connect with my body and gain more confidence. Deeply grateful for this experience and would absolutely recommend!

Lisa E.

The experience was eye-opening and empowering

From the very beginning, Helder created a safe and comfortable atmosphere that helped me overcome my initial scepticism. His gentle guidance allowed me to connect more deeply with myself, gain confidence in my body, and recognize the importance of expressing my needs and boundaries. The experience was eye-opening and empowering, and I’m deeply grateful for Helder’s patience, professionalism, and care.

Gabriele L.

FAQs

Have questions? You’re not alone.

Choosing the right program or session is a personal decision, and it’s natural to want clarity before you begin. This FAQ brings together the most common questions clients ask about safety, methods, logistics, and expected results. My hope is that it helps you to feel informed, reassured, and ready for your next step.

Practical & Logistics

Most coaching and therapy sessions run for 50 minutes, which is the standard for focused individual or couple work. Somatic programs such as Tantra Massage or Body Mapping are longer immersions ranging from 2 to 4 hours. You can book directly through the website, and I’ll help you choose the format that best suits your needs.

Sessions are available online and in person in Zurich. Outdoor Coaching Labs are always held in nature, with exact meeting points shared upon booking. In-person sessions in other locations can sometimes be arranged individually.

Yes. All sessions are private and held to the same ethical and professional standards as psychotherapy. Confidentiality is at the heart of this work.

Safety, Boundaries & Ethics

No. Some somatic practices may include body-based touch or guided exploration, but there is never sexual activity between practitioner and client. Boundaries and agreements are always discussed and honoured before beginning.

You are always in control. We can pause, adjust, or stop at any point. Your agency and comfort come first.

Yes. Many services — from intimacy coaching to outdoor relational labs — can be tailored for couples who want to strengthen communication, rebuild trust, or deepen intimacy together.

Methods & Approach

Somatic Sexology integrates psychological insight with body-based practices. Instead of focusing only on thoughts and words, it helps you reconnect with sensation, desire, and intimacy in safe, trauma-informed ways.

Body Mapping is exploratory: it helps you discover your unique “map” of sensation, boundaries, and pleasure. Tantra Massage is immersive: a longer ritual that awakens sensual energy and deepens connection. Many clients begin with Body Mapping before moving into Tantra Massage.

Yes. Relationship and intimacy work blends evidence-based psychology with somatic research and nervous system regulation. Workplace well-being draws on neuroscience and occupational health practices. Outdoor coaching is rooted in Attention Restoration Theory and Stress Recovery Theory, both backed by scientific evidence.

Suitability & Results

Individuals and couples seeking more intimacy, confidence, or clarity. Professionals facing burnout or stress in demanding workplaces. And anyone curious about using nature as a setting for growth and reflection.

You’re welcome here. All sessions are trauma-informed and paced gently. Many clients arrive with similar concerns and find this work supportive in reclaiming safety, agency, and pleasure.

Yes. These sessions involve light walking, reflection, and dialogue rather than strenuous hiking. We adapt to your comfort level so you can focus on insight and connection.

They are tailored for leaders, teams, and organizations under high pressure. Common themes include burnout recovery, stress regulation, emotional resilience, and strengthening workplace relationships. Programs are confidential, evidence-based, and customized to your context.

Booking, Packages & Program Flow

Sessions are available throughout the week, with occasional weekend availability by request. Once you reach out, you’ll receive proposed time slots within a few days. You can begin a program whenever you’re ready — there’s no fixed start date.

It depends on your goals and the type of work. Coaching and therapy usually unfold across several 50-minute sessions. Somatic programs, such as Tantra Massage or Body Mapping, are single immersive sessions of 2–4 hours. Multi-session programs like Embodied Reclamation or Trust & Intimacy Renewal are designed as progressive journeys — the number of sessions is specified in each description.

Packages can be used over 6 to 12 months, depending on the program. This gives you space to integrate insights between sessions while keeping steady continuity in your process.

Yes — life happens. Sessions can be easily rescheduled with at least 24 hours’ notice.

If you don’t see your exact question here, feel free to reach out. Every journey begins with curiosity — and together, we’ll find the right starting point for you.